Q: Dear Donnarose, a couple years ago I discovered my husband of 10 years was lying about money. We since resolved this issue, and all has been fine, well, regarding money that is. The problem is, I still resent that he lied to me. How do I know he won't do this again? ~Regards, Brenda
A: ~ “When we focus on lies, they tend to multiply. Focus on trust, and matching behavior becomes a must." ~Donnarose Melvin
There is no guarantee that a person won't lie again, or begin lying for the first time for that matter. Either way, it's a matter of allowing yourself the gift of trusting your husband. I say gift, because trust allows for a more peaceful life. Keep in mind, trusting someone doesn't mean you're naive. It's just that directing consistent mistrusting energy towards your husband, is the same as sending an invitation to lie again. Meaning, what you think, is what you'll get. It's that law of attraction concept.
One way to begin trusting your husband, is to forgive him. This helps release stuck energy within you that's attached to resentment from the past money story. Equally critical, is to forgive yourself for any self-blame. Like my quote above suggests, the bottom-line is to direct trusting thoughts and energy towards your husband, and his actions will continue to match it. If you need a little help with this, ask your Angels. They truly will lovingly guide you, and your husband as well. ~♥
Q: Dear Donnarose, Jim and I have been friends for about 5 years, and recently started dating. We always teased eachother a lot and laughed about it. I recently sent him a romantic text and he joked about it. I told him it hurt my feelings and raised my voice a little. After I apologized, he said he didn't mean to hurt my feelings, and things were fine after that. This happened 2 times now. How do I nip this in the bud to avoid future incidences like this? ~Thank you, Katlin
A: ~ “Friends can laugh and play a little rough. But once you're more than friends, words need a gentle touch." ~Donnarose Melvin
When you became friends, you developed ways of communicating that became habit. But when the heart gets involved romantically, the sensitivity factor may grow as well. And as my quote above suggests, the way you now communicate needs to be tweaked a little to match the status of your relationship. A good thing is not only did you apologize, but you explained by using effective communication when you said, “It hurt my feelings”, rather than using the “You” hurt my feelings “finger-in-the-face” way of communicating. This already is progress. Keep in mind, that one of the things that drew you two together is the sense of humor you both have. Be sure to keep that going. Just gently express to him that when he sees you're being more romantic whether in a text or photo, to pause for the cause, and respond accordingly with matching romantic energy. After some practice, I have a hunch you two will be expressing less apologies and more gratitude towards each other.~♥
Donnarose Melvin is a professional psychic, medium and energy healer, whose pleasure it is to assist clients worldwide. She incorporates knowledge from her degree in psychology, along with her clairvoyant, clairaudient, clairsentient, claircognizant, and empathic gifts to guide her clients towards peace and success. Please send your questions to SoulfullyYoursDonnarose@gmail.com or private message her via facebook: Soulfully Yours Donnarose. She will select questions each month to share with you. Donnarose regrets that unpublished questions cannot be answered individually. If you’d like an intuitive reading, contact Donnarose at the email address above. ~ ♥