Q: Dear Donnarose, I’ve been with my man for 3 years now. He has started giving subtle hints about needing some space. I'm confused as I do everything for him, so I'm not understanding what the problem is. Can you sense anything on this? ~Thank you, Regina
A: “A man learns how to treat his woman, by watching how she treats herself.” ~Donnarose Melvin
I was just shown a visual of a male energy being smothered, where there wasn't enough space to breathe or move. Meaning, the question is other than what more can you do for your man to make things better, it's what can you start doing for you? I've received many calls on this topic. And what I've found is more often than not, when a man says or shows he needs some space, it's the woman who needs it. You've been non-stop doing, going, thinking, then doing again and again. You've lovingly taken on what I call the “mother, sister, friend, boss, therapist, housekeeper, chef” role. Do you notice the role that's missing? The “fun” role is missing due to being exhausted from not only over-doing for your man, but especially from under-doing for you. The good news is your situation can change for the better. But it's going to take doing the opposite of what you're used to, but you'll do great. Consider you're about to take a class. It's called the “Do For You” class. The rule is, you have to ace it. The assignment is to first write a list from at least 1-7. The list has to consist of all types of things you'll start doing for yourself that will be anywhere from free to a fee.
Examples are: Go into nature, meditate, dance to great music, massage, yoga, fun TV, spa day, girl’s time out, soulful books, taking that Angels 101 or painting class, and anything else that's nurturing. This includes staying in the light with your thoughts towards yourself. Now the key is, these action steps must remain consistent after your man's need for space becomes less and less-which it will. The bottom line I'm being told, is the more you do for you, the more your man will want to do for you.
This is relative to my quote above. So definitely get ready, because less space, and more closeness with your man is coming your way. ~♥
Q: Dear Donnarose, my mother has been mean all my life, and my mother-in-law has treated my husband and me pretty badly for years. I decided to mourn them even though they're still alive. It's the only thing I can think to do at this point to keep my sanity. Any suggestions? ~Suzanne
A: ~ “Bring the Creator's Light into a situation that isn't bright, and soon you'll see, you'll receive all that you need.” ~Donnarose Melvin
Mothers hold a special place in the hearts of many, and are expected to provide a large degree of love and nurturing. When someone receives the opposite treatment like you have for years, a sense of betrayal and great dismay tends to set upon one. Your decision to mourn them and put a wall up to their existence by moving, is definitely a defensive approach to take without hitting back so to speak. However, while this will put them at a physical distance, the toxic energetic build up accumulated from all these years of feeling unloved, unworthy, etc., still resides within you. This may manifest physical illness and restrict spiritual growth. One way to help prevent this and handle what already exists, is to clear the negative stuck energy within you by using the model of forgiveness. Do this by asking Creator to “help all people involved, in this and any other lifetime, to forgive each other and ourselves, no matter what happened, please and thank you.” Also, replace the mourning wall of protection with your Higher Power's protective wall of light. Do this by saying, “Thank you Archangel Michael for protecting me and keeping me safe.” And on a daily basis, try to stay in the light with your thoughts towards yourself. By doing all the above, it'll help keep your energy clean as well as safe from future absorption of their negative energy. But don't be surprised if it causes a shift and lift of your mother and mother-in-law's vibration. Meaning their behavior may slowly begin to match this shift and it would benefit all involved. I've seen this happen many times, so I know it works. So get ready and prepare to enjoy the positive results that are to come from all your upcoming inner work.~♥
Donnarose Melvin is a professional psychic, medium and energy healer, whose pleasure it is to assist clients worldwide. She incorporates knowledge from her degree in psychology, along with her clairvoyant, clairaudient, clairsentient, claircognizant, and empathic gifts to guide her clients towards peace and success. Please send your questions to SoulfullyYoursDonnarose@gmail.com or private message her via facebook: Soulfully Yours Donnarose. She will select questions each month to share with you. Donnarose regrets that unpublished questions cannot be answered individually. If you’d like an intuitive reading, contact Donnarose at the email address above. ~ ♥